Focus on Meditation, Resistance to Meditation

This is week 6 of a progressive blog. Join us each week as we create our meditation practice.
                Many people wonder if meditation is so good for us why do you resist? I would fall asleep, get bored, easily distracted, even forget to do it all together. I remember thinking I will do it in a minute, then a minute later thinking I will do it in a minute and wondering why did I keep putting it off.

               The event that really brought me to a strong meditative practice was my son’s school PE. He went to a distance school so PE was 2 hours twice a week out in the middle of no where. Nothing for me to do for 2 hours! Unless I figured something out. I tried reading, walking, writing people I was out of touch with, but everything seemed to irritate me. Finally I came up with a plan, walk 1/4 mile, read 30 minutes, take care of house bills, then mediate. The first few times I set out to meditate just kind of got away from me. I spent a half hour thinking about meditating without actually doing anything because my own thoughts kept distracting me. Nothing was changing! I wanted to feel better. Admitting that the lack of change was because I wasn’t actually getting anything done was an eye opener. This wasn’t like taking a pill or a vitamin to feel better, this was all on me.

                This was when I came up with the one minute idea. If I could bring myself to really focus for just one minute at least I could say I gave it a try. Over time one turned into 3, into 5, to 10, and finally 30. A couple of times I had started my meditation before my walk and ended up meditating the entire 2 hours! These were amazing moments for me because it still only felt like 15 minutes. No matter how long my meditations are now they only feel like 15 minutes. Once you enter a meditative space you become unaware of actual time.

                 Let’s take a look at common reasons you are resistant to meditation.
feels uncomfortable– for some it is physically uncomfortable to meditate.
Solution? Rearrange ourselves until you are absolutely comfortable. Positions can accentuate certain meditations but a specific position is not a requirement.

boring- lots of us are used to hyper stimulation from TV, radio, the phone. You find meditating boring because you are in withdrawal. You are not use to being relaxed.
Solution? Start with a very small amount of time, set a timer to avoid thinking “are you done yet?” Try adding some relaxing music that will stimulate the brain but not distract it.

fall asleep- when you meditate your system performs an action that is much like a computer downloading information. When the computer is new there is a lot of information that is waiting to be put on the hard drive. This is true with meditation as well. There is information that has been waiting to enter your mind. A person new to meditation may fall asleep every time they try to meditate for months. Relaxation plays a part too.
Solution? Take a nap. If you go to meditate and you fall asleep GREAT! This means that the information (conscious understanding, healing energy, soul purpose, etc) now has a chance to enter into the body at a much faster pace. In the beginning I feel asleep every single time!

resistant to learning the lesson– sometimes you are just stubborn. Wanting to hurry through things in life instead of being in the moment is a resistance to learning the lesson. You want the result without the process (an example microwaves made popular)
Solution? Slow down, be aware of what it is that you do not want to learn. Accept that impatience is a process that was taught to us and not your natural state of being. Meditating will help us return to your natural relaxed state of being.

accepting/ understanding– the point of meditation is not a result, in the beginning accepting or understanding why you are “wasting” your time on this activity may be difficult.
Solution? Discipline. A disciplined routine will over time provide information that will enlighten the conscious mind of the benefits of meditation.

change– Your conscious mind has worked hard to cerate your way of learning and understanding. When you meditate you are asking your mind to take a break, to step back and let the subconscious, super-conscious and spirit take center stage and do their work.
Solution? Just being aware that this is happening will help lesson the effect of the conscious mind’s resistance to change.

trouble translating– you may see symbols, pictures, colors, or nothing at all. The conscious mind wants to make sense of the meaning behind these items. It is important in the beginning that you do not spend a lot of time doing this.
Solution? Translating the information into the language of your conscious mind will come later, as beginners just release all attachment to ideas, thoughts, and conclusions.

practice makes perfect- by having a daily meditation ritual you begin to get comfortable and enjoy your meditation. If you take a break from your meditation you may find ourselves resistant when you resume your schedule. This is normal and okay.
Solution? After you return to your ritual of meditating regularly resistance should fall away.

Questions and Answers:

Is it okay to move on even though I have not been consistent with my Meditative Practice? Just reading the information may be interesting but if you are serious about creating a meditative space you should not continue moving forward at this point until you have the foundation in place to do so. It is important to have a solid foundation before moving forward. Each time you add a foundation fundamental such as finding meditative space, Diaphragmatic Breath, or Progressive Relaxation the fundamental needs to be solidly in place before you try to build on it. It is okay to start over at the beginning if you feel you have an unsteady foundation.

Is this in conflict- I heard that you should be able to meditate even with distractions. Yes, this is true. In the beginning you eliminate the distractions to create the space. Once the space has a firm foundation you will find that the distractions you are eliminating will no longer be a problem.

I am still having trouble with finding my minute. If you can not find three minutes in your day to do something you have been wanting to do it might be time for a private session with someone who can help. Search out a practitioner like myself or someone who offers guided meditation, or private mediation classes. You can also find groups in your area that meet to meditate on sites such as meetup.com.

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