WBS Contemplation and Emotions

Be sure to practice Beginning Contemplation. Once you are comfortable with the concept you can add Contemplation and Emotions into your practice.

When you next practice contemplation, you can consider events having conflict or emotionally charged attachments. Work with this method:

  • Each time you find yourself emotionally involved during contemplation, you will pull back into the third party observer. From there you will be aware of the conflict without being involved in the conflict.
  • You will observe from a third party point of view your reactions during each event. Observe without any conclusions or judgments, paying close attention to how you feel your emotions as you watch from a place outside of your personal experience of them. If done correctly, you will notice a decrease in your emotional response to the moment being observed. You will also notice an increase to your awareness of the picture as a whole.
  • Answer these questions:
    • What can I see different from this perspective? What is different from when I was experiencing my exaggerated emotions, fear or pain?
    • What was the misunderstanding or belief that brought me to this experience?
    • What piece of information did I assume or twist? What did I assume was fact? What pulled me into having a painful experience?
  • Review the event again, aware of your conflicting ideas. You need to stay present as an outsider, clear on the facts without assumption, and watch without judgment.
  • If you find yourself getting emotional or attached to an event or its details you am no longer a third party observer.
  • Be compassionate and let go of critical opinions of yourself and the other participants as you would for a child or a best friend in need of your support.

It is in moving through your emotions that you find relief. Contemplation helps bring information to the surface that your emotional focus keeps out of view. Your answers already exist in every moment and your wellness practice gives you the space to find what you are blocking. In this space you can address and release these blocks.

Practice: Pay attention to emotional pain. When you feel victimized and lash out, make an effort to slow down or stop, bringing information to the surface instead of holding focus on your fear. You will likely see you were being selfless beyond your ability to meet your own need. This displacement of your need drives your brain to take over to protect you. In your practice space you can address and release these issues instead of waiting until your are driven out of character by the emotional pressure holding creates.