Mental: Raising Whole Kids

Mental coping to help with uneasiness:

Stacking Beliefs

Restacking your beliefs can reveal internal conflicts, perspective issues, and improper prioritization of others over self.

Practice: Make a list of five things you like to do at the end of your day.

Example: Dinner, shower, stretch, read to kids, and watch videos.

Don’t get too hung up on the five items, just five different things that you like to do.

  • Take your list and read it out loud. Feel your satisfaction with your list.
  • Now reorganize your list. Example: Shower, read to kids, watch videos, dinner, and stretch.
  • Take your new list and read it out loud. Feel your reaction to your list. Is your level of satisfaction different than before?

Rearrange your list and go through the process as many times as you need until you find awareness to a change in the feel of the list based on its order.

Example: If you enjoy stretching your back while in a hot shower then your subconscious may not find joy if you start your evening with stretching and end it with a shower.

Next, throw in two things that need to be done that you do not enjoy. Example: taking the trash to the curb and paying bills.

  • Take your extended list and read it out loud. Move the order of the list around until you feel these two less enjoyable items as something more enjoyable.

Practice Variation: Take your list of things that are important to you at the end of the day and prioritize them from 1 as most important to 7 as least important. Share the list with someone close to you. Do not let them see your ranking of your list. Have them number your list in two ways:

  • What they think is the most important to you from 1 as most important to 10 as least important.
  • What is the most important to them from 1 as most important to 10 as least important.
  • Discuss the information with them.

Restacking your beliefs can give way to the free flow of energy and make the same process manageable with less stress and strain on your system. Realizing that it is not the event that causes your stress rather it is:

  • Mental control over the importance or urgency of events in your life.
  • The organization of events not looking like you expect them to look.
  • That you can see a task you want to accomplish as work instead of joyful because of your stacked beliefs.

In your life, more often than not everything is fine, everything is joyful. You do things because you are willing. Realizing you are willing can relieve a lot of stress. Changing the mental pressure you put on yourself about things can relieve a lot of stress. Use your experience with this practice to see how stacking effects you in other ways.

Example: When you are running late do you put pressure on yourself that makes everything else feel less than enjoyable? It is okay to not make timeliness the only important factor in your experience. It is okay to know you are late, work towards being on time, and not feel bad at all in the moment. The pressure is unnecessary.

Purpose: Using responsibility and discipline from a place of balance in your life makes every experience joyful. This practice helps you see where your habit of stacking things changes their equality and creates stress.

Mental Body

If you have any kind of feeling about where things go when you organize your external world, arranging the internal energy of your body can be as easy as thinking about organizing your belongings.

Practice: Feel a section of your body. You are looking for anything that feels out of place.

  • Apply a slow, easy pace to your breath. Settle into this slow, easy pace until it feels agreeable or enjoyable to you.
  • Holding this same enjoyable feeling, look back at the area of your body where something feels out of place.
  • Use your mental feeling focus to move this space that feels out of place around in your body.
  • When it feels it is more comfortably arranged with the rest of your body let it rest.
  • Breathing at the slow, easy pace, check to see if the spot continues to feel at rest in the new location.
  • If the spot does not feel at rest, move the spot again until it feels at rest.

The spot in its new location will align and shift the connections it holds. You may need to repeat this process multiple times before it feels completely at rest.

Practice Variation: Use this method in conjunction with your Progressive Muscle Relaxation for a more controlled, directed process.

*It is a good idea to practice Overlapping Principles for Releasing Blocks and Focused Breath prior to using this method.

Purpose: Use this practice to release and align the physical energy connections of your body.