STUDY Day 12—Perception, Construction

Perception Construction

Perception is a Wonderful Gift

Perception is used in many ways to help us enjoy our lives, making it possible to communicate theory, concepts, ideas, and feelings between us as a group.  Our perceptions do many things for us:

  • protect us
  • give us a sense of value
  • bonds us as a group
  • allow us to express years of experience by communicating complicated issues in simple terms
  • lets us make quick decisions
  • helps us feel life as comfortable and familiar
  • lends to humor and joy
  • make uncomfortable situations bearable

Perception is Learned

Perception is learned over time and can be altered by:

  • time between experiences
  • exposure to others
  • trauma (extreme experience either felt as fear or excitement)
  • emotionally charged moments felt personally or experienced observing others
  • impulses we see in the body language of others that we assume mean something
  • fear (false evidence appearing real)
  • greater needs that we do not understand
  • desire to please or be pleased
  • negative and positive aspects of ego

Common Misperceptions About Perception

  • it’s who I am, I have always been this way
  • if I let a perception go I won’t know myself
  • if I let a perception go people will think I am a hypocrite
  • someone is mean or hard because they express a perception I don’t understand or believe in
  • a perception defines who a person is on the inside
  • I can not be acquainted with people who do not share my perception or who’s perception I do not agree with

Changing Our Perception

Sometimes it is necessary on the conscious level to undo or update our perceptions based on:

  • experience with lifeperception construction
  • relevant age to our surroundings
  • the protection it gives is no longer needed
  • the space it creates is no longer useful
  • we can not remember or find the foundation of this behavior even though it is very familiar
  • it becomes a chore instead of a pleasure

The most complete way to change our perception is for us to realize perception is self created and is not a global, country, state, city, neighborhood, family, fact.  When to make changes to a perception:

  • the current perception does not meet the long term goal or belief of how I see myself
  • over lapping contrary perceptions are apparent and causing conflict
  • it is causing me mental or emotional pain to support the perception
  • it is keeping my life out of balance in a way I do not enjoy
  • when new or current facts do not align with the perception

Because perception is altered by attention being aware in the moment is an important part of healthy perception. Whatever we are paying attention to in this moment creates the direction of our perception.  Some in the moment behaviors that stress perception and take us out of our natural balance can be:

  • being over tired
  • under nourished, hungry, over full
  • feeling stuck, or that things will never change
  • fear of the future or past effecting or repeating in this moment
  • indecision based on fear of unknown consequences
  • overly concerned about what others think
  • unresolved hurt feelings
  • impatience with a lesson, wanting a resolution no to things that take time
  • long term goals that you do not know how to reach

Remember, when you are acting in a way that does not meet your need in this moment something is taking priority over your perceptions.  Slowing down and being aware of your perception shift can give you space to be the you that you enjoy showing yourself and the world.  If you are suffering under your own perceptions keep in mind that your personal power has put you here and your own personal power can get you out.

Healthy Example of Perception Shift

As a parent I made this perception error a few times, over reacting and feeling out of control with no resolution, before I understood what was driving my reaction.  Situation-kids are running and screaming and I call out, “knock that off” and get thoroughly pissed if they don’t.   Why?

With a closer look I remember that my parents liked a quiet house. When we were loud they yelled, “knock that off” and whatever we were doing we stopped.  I imagine we stopped things they didn’t even know we were doing!   Being obedient in my family was considered respectful and loving, a top priority.

Now, in my family, with me as the parent, I taught my kids that having great experiences was a top priority.  Because of this they did not always “knock that off”‘ when commanded.  Being obedient was somewhere in the middle of their socialized list.

When I am distracted and the noise of children is getting louder and louder subconscious beliefs are being triggered as learned reaction in me.  If I am not paying attention to them I will become more and more uncomfortable until I reach for the habitual behavior I learned from my parents as a child, to yell “knock that off”.  With a closer look, slowing down and putting my attention on the uncomfortable feelings I can see the triggers.  Too much noise means confusion-someone might get hurt, too much noise means aggression-someone might get hurt, and I recognized that as a kid when the excitement level got high and we were having the most fun my parents yelled knock that off-to my child mind that meant having great fun was not okay.

When I listened to the situation without these perceptions or fears I started to see that I enjoyed the antics, I cherished the sound of my kids squealing in delight.  My perception was not altered, my attention was.  By coming into the moment and paying attention to the uncomfortable feelings instead of letting them build up I could quickly evaluate if I needed the trigger to urge me to action or simply to check in this moment what my needs were.

Perception Goal

Our long term goal of learning about perception is we will be capable of an assemblage shift, seeing all perspectives at the same time, and be capable of embodying the perception that meets the needs of all facets of our life in a single moment, effortlessly reaching the win win of every situation.